Monday, January 26, 2015

Adoption....From the eyes of a child

When adopting a child, there is always so much excitement, happiness and energy that surround the process.  Dreams come true, people become parents, and children gain a stable and loving family.  What is often overlooked is the child's perspective.

We have to go into adoption knowing that we need to focus primarily on the child's perspective.  Of course, being adopted is a big change in the child's life.  He will hopefully receive lots of love, new extended family members for support, and a sense of security and stability through the adoption. But, we need to understand that there is no happy way to get to the point of adoption. Every child's adoption has a back-story, and that back-story includes loss and grief.  The reasons that the child was available for adoption will be complex and the child may struggle with feelings of abandonment and rejection.  If the child is originally from a different country, there is the extra layer of loss of his larger cultural community and customs. We must be sensitive to this grief and loss and try to understand so that we know how to help our adopted child through the hard times he has faced in his life. The child will process these feelings throughout his lifetime and we need to educate ourselves as to how to respond in healthy and affirming ways.  We also need to know about post adoption support resources in our community that can bring a larger world view and context to the adoption experience for the child.  

Below is a two-part link that will lead you to a story from a young adopted woman's perspective.  Kristina is an unusual young woman who seems at peace with her adoption experience.  We know that every adoption story is unique and we hope you enjoy reading about Kristina's journey.
Http://hopeathomeblog.blogspot.com/2011/05/adopted-childs-perspective-on-adoption.html

http://hopeathomeblog.blogspot.com/2011/05/adopted-childs-perspective-kristina.html



Drafted by Brittany Alness, staff member of the Law Offices of Karen S. Law, PLC.
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